What to do when you don’t know what to do

So, there was a plan, which was to occur the end of 2024. Due to events beyond my control, that didn’t happen. All the while I thought it would not happen anyway, so the fact that it did not happen were not surprising. Possibly next year, but now I am not so sure of that either. The whole issue has me in a conundrum. I want whatever I do to be the right thing, but how do I discover it?

When I looked up conundrum, the dictionary defined the word as an intricate and difficult problem. I agree with that, because it does not only involve me. It involves family members. I want to be in their lives, but sometimes I am not so sure I will be to the extent I want to be. It’s appearing to be complicated.

The next definition said a question or problem having only a conjectural answer, and the word conjectural means a conclusion deduced by surmise or guesswork. But I don’t want to be in a conundrum created by conjecture based on guesswork. And that leads me to the title:

What do I do when I don’t know what to do?

From a faith perspective, the answer is [for now] simple: I am choosing not to make any definitive decisions for now, not this year, and maybe not for three or four years down the road. (Okay, maybe not four years; perhaps the next two to three years from now.) But what do I do in the meantime?

  1. Don’t rush things. I realized this week that I don’t have to make a decision, especially when there are other things that need tending to. For example, getting a handle on my finances and getting healthy are my top two concerns. There is nothing wrong with me doing all I can to get better with both.
  2. Pray, pray, pray. Rely on God to keep me stable while asking and discovering answers. Actually, I am making discoveries now, which is really good. That helps me know that all is not lost, I’m not a failure, and I have not run out of time. This gives me a level of peace, at least to some extent. But when the peace seems to dissipate, that is the time to pray and ask for help even more.
  3. Do what I can to locate the answers. Do research. Believe it or not, information that needs to be to be found is in the bible. What does the bible have to say on topics such as faith, trust, that God has a plan for you, and these next words…
  4. Be patient and wait. I never thought I would think this, but it’s a good thing to wait for things to unfold. I admit I am used to being the one to come up with quick answers, and the majority of time they weren’t good solutions, which meant I should have waited for something better. Because the decisions I want to discover are very important, I don’t want to screw this up. Not at this time in my life. I want to make wise decisions, and I want God to be involved.
  5. I am discovering that when something unfolds during this season of discovery, I am in awe. That is because I know the answers are not mine, but God’s. I can’t fully explain it, but I just know when something pops in my spirit it’s from Him. For me, this is a new way of doing life.

God’s plans will prosper me and not give me harm; God’s plans provide hope and a future. All these things I want. Please God, help me not to screw this up…

God Is In Control

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, wondering why things happen the way they do. I wonder why things get a critical point while wondering how and why I got there.

Perhaps there are some answers, many of which I have to admit are my fault.

Doing things the familiar but unsuccessful way. Why does this happen? It’s because of the familiarity of it, which leads to the ‘I’m used to doing things this way’ road that leads to a dead end. When one does life this way, there is nothing new to discover, no new paths to move from the same ol’ way to doing something new. What would that entail?

Here’s an example. Instead of trying to do math in your head, thinking you are keeping a mental record of what you have spent, how about writing everything down? Having a financial journal of what you have spent can really open your eyes to discovering why your bank account dwindled to next to nothing, because you forgot some items you spent. Next writing down how much to spend for groceries, gas for your car, and other things that you may not really need to spend. I was surprised that writing a grocery list and vowing not to go over an amount actually worked. It aided in keeping my bank account in the green and not in the red.

But here is something more on the spiritual level.

Doing things your way while not including God will lead to disaster. Just because you go to church and agree with what the minister says in the sermon doesn’t necessarily mean you are adhering to what is being said. It is like the words are going in one ear and out the other. Because once the service is over, you return to your way of doing life. For example, when God says to come to him and give him what is on your mind to the point of worry (which he says not to do if you read Matthew 6), but you don’t give it over to him because you try to fix it using your outdated methods, you are spinning in an endless cycle that yields results, but not good positive ones. The worry continues, the prayer (if you do that) bounces off the ceiling, as you continue to keep in control of your challenging situation. Which leads to another point.

Acknowledgement of what is really happening. This point is where the rubber meets the road. Admit you are trying to stay in control. Answer this question: How is staying in control working for you? I hope your answer will be an honest one, admitting it is getting you nowhere. And further admit you have been going nowhere for years, decades even, to no avail. What would happen if God took over the reins?

If you truly gave things over to God, the responsibility is off you and on Him. I may have written about this in another post, but as you can see, one has to keep being reminded to give it over to God. You see, it is not you that is in control, but God is. He has the resources to do an ‘immediately’, meaning he can give you the solution in a suddenly type of manner. But admit there are things you have to learn, and it may take a while for your mindset to switch from the way you do things, to accepting and allowing God to be in control and experiencing how God does things. Be patient; the way God does things oftentimes is not in a quick, microwave manner. Remember there are some things you have to relearn. Wait I say on the Lord.

Doing things in a new way from doing things in an old way for years will take time. But it will make life better, if you allow God to be in control.

Prayer:

Lord God, you are my Jehovah-Jireh. You promise that you are my shepherd, and I lack for nothing. Show me the new thing. Give me the strength to follow in your way, as I give up my unsuccessful ways of doing things. Let me give up control and wait on you.